As time passes, there has been a vast difference in everything. Things have been revolutionised, people have moved on and have embraced the modern age, but there is still something which needs a lot of attention for a better future. We need to pay attention to our future commanders who will be strong enough to survive every storm of life. Well, here are few tips on how to make your child an independent person, we were able to gather at The Planet Social from our lovely and experienced mothers around us. Check out…
1. Give Notice
Get your child on board by encouraging her to help “you” change. My sister who has been an ideal smart parent for me as I have seen her realising things at the right moment, she understood that she was doing way more for her son than was necessary, she told him, “I’m sorry. I’ve been treating you like a little kid when you are ready to do some big-kid jobs!” She warns against using phrases like “You’re not a baby anymore”; baby can be a sensitive word in this age group.
2. Identify Opportunities
Make a list of things he/she could do all by themselves. My cousin sister and her husband had 13 tasks, including brushing his/her teeth. Ask them which duties they feel they are big enough to take on—it’s likely to increase their willingness to try.
3. Target Priorities
Tackle one item at a time, so you don’t overwhelm them.
4. Make Time
If it takes her 10 minutes to brush her own hair, start your morning 10 minutes earlier (and put down the brush!). When she’s not being micromanaged, she may surprise you with her co-operation, and you’ll be a calmer influence when you’re not racing against the clock.
5. Negotiate and Compromise
If she digs in her heels, compromise and inject some fun. For a few days, I saw my cousin taking shirt duty and her children did the bottoms. She said that her tree branches (arms) needed their leaves (her shirt) and that they did a great job—and would also be awesome at putting on their own shirt.
6. Forget Perfection
Accept that they won’t do the task as well as you. If the milk spills, show them how to clean it up without criticism and assure them it happens to everyone.
7. Praise Something
Instead of pointing out that their shoes are on the wrong feet, say, “You put on your own shoes! Good job!” they will discover the discomfort on their own. Give positive follow-up like, “I bet you’ll get them on the right feet tomorrow.”
8. Consider Circumstances
If kids are tired, sick, stressed or adjusting to a change, it’s not the time to introduce new responsibilities. And don’t be discouraged if they regress, wanting you to do a task after they’ve mastered it. This is normal. Temporarily sharing the load can help them bounce back more quickly than if you scold or criticise them.
Stay relaxed. Possibly, you may find more messy beds and puddles of milk, but hearing your child proudly say, “I did it all by myself!” is worth it.
Don’t rush in to solve minor issues when they crop up, says psychologist Jeanne Williams. Encourage your child’s problem-solving skills by asking if they can come up with a fix. If they are stumped, give them time to think before offering up your ideas.
After all, parenting is an experience of growing up for you too!